We can’t predict the kind of hurt we get most times but we do have the right to determine who hurt us. Most of us let our past experiences hunt us for way too long. Its actually hard to move on when you still hold on to that pain. But the truth is, at a point we ought to shake it off and rise above it.
Tolu was a vibrant youth who wanted the most out of life but something tragic happened to him. Here’s his experience:
His parents weren’t financially bouyant but they wanted the best for their only son and so they sacrificed all they could in order to get him into the best university in the country. Before heading to school, his dad warned him about the challenges he was going to face this new phase of his life, that he should be strong and prayerful. Tolu yielded to this advice at first.
Tolu was an engineering student. In his first four years in school he was a good hardworking student. He did every assignment, project, attend classes, chapel services, was a member of a service unit, obeyed rules and regulations. All these were ofcourse before he went for his IT (internship ) for a period of 6 months. These 6 months he couldn’t forget in a hurry.
During that period, he worked in an oil company in one of the most deserted part of the country and had to move there for that timeframe. Most of the workers there weren’t believers and so any form of religious activity were prohibited. Soon, he stopped reading the Bible and forgot to pray. This made him grow distant with God.
Tolu discovered that the world outside of his school was way different than he expected. There, he saw men who weren’t faithful to their wives, liars, cheats, sexually perversed people, men who loved money than they love God, men who despised Christians and other acts of maliciousness. This affected him tremendously.
Tolu dropped out from his service unit when he got back to school for his final session. He discovered that he couldn’t balance good academic performance and his service unit activities. Little this he know that this was the path to his downfall. He started following bad gangs, taking alcohol, partying at nights, sleeping around with different girls and even taking hard drugs. Soon he became a drug addict. He was so disappointed about the realities of life he discovered during his IT period and saw no need to still be the ‘good boy’ (as to him it didn’t pay off ). He got fed up of the fact that his new friends who didn’t study as much as he did in school got better grades than him and as such he decided to follow their ways (they engaged in examination malpractice ). He just didn’t see the need to work so hard anymore.
Unfortunately for him during his final paper, Tolu was caught engaging in examination malpractice and was truncated out of school. But just before then, the school management discovered he had engaged in theft prior to that exam and also was a drug addict. He was expelled and arrested. Whilst in prison, Tolu faced harsh conditions and regretted the day he made that wrong decision. He remembered the sacrifices his parents made to see to it that he got the best education and how he had ended up disappointing them. He had wasn’t five years of his life and even more in prison.
However, Tolu didn’t permit his predicament get the better part of him. When he got out of prison he rose above his past experiences and desired to be better. He worked hard at it and was determined to make a change in the word. This he achieved eventually.
See, it’s not about the pain and hurt you felt in the past, or how many times you failed at something. Its about how fast you are willing and ready to get back up, shake off the bitter experience, learn from it and move on.
This new month, I urge you all to surround yourself with positive people, good friends, people that actually motivate and inspire you to be better, press to achieve good success and just have fun with your life. The ways of the world only make provision for bad success which is only temporary. God’s ways lead to good success. Make Joshua 1:8 your anchor Scripture.
Remember that christianity is more than just a religion, it’s a lifestyle.
HERE’S TO NEW BEGINNINGS.HAPPY NEW MONTH!!!